Sunday, October 9, 2011
The Most Important Heroine
I come from a long line of women who seem to choose not to have a life. If they pursue hobbies, they don’t last long. If they have dreams, they never talk about them never mind do anything to achieve them.
If a woman who fits this description were cast as the heroine of a Romance novel, two things could happen. a) The reader might see potential for a very wide, attitude-shifting, life-changing character arc, or b) the reader would put the book down because who the heck wants to read about someone so boring and depressing?
I don’t know about you, but I’m going with B on this one. So today, we’re talking about heroines. But not the ones in our books. The ones in our lives.
To quote The Holiday (and probably numerous other sources) “Every woman should be the heroine of her own life.”
So today, we’re defining ourselves. What kind of heroine do you want to be? We’re taking matters into our own hands, defining our dreams, even creating our dream look.
I’ll start. First we pick three adjectives we want others to think of when they think of us. For me it’s independent, smart, funny. (I know. You’re shocked.) And for my style, I want an entire wardrobe from Bettie Page Clothing. Or rather Bettie designs combined with several pieces from Pin Up Girl Clothing thrown in too.
These clothes are not only straight out of the 40s (my favorite for fashion), they’re made for girls with curves. I could so rock this dress! [Click on the picture to see the details.]
And look at those shoes! WANT!! (I have to stop looking at that website. At least until I hit the lottery. And get a knee replacement.)
Now I have to decide my story. I kind of like the details being a secret, but only because I have no idea how to teach a stubborn ass, independent woman like me that she can’t do everything herself and could be happy with a man around. Since the ending would be a HEA, I’d learn that lesson. Somehow.
It’s possible, right? Maybe?
Your turn. Pick your three adjectives, describe your dream style (with a link if you want), and tell us how the story of your life would go. To be clear, saying “I’d be married to the man I’m with right now and enjoying life raising my little darlings into fine, upstanding adults who will give me loads of grandchildren” is totally legit.
So tell us. What kind of heroine do you want to be? And by all means, cast your hero while you’re at it!
If a woman who fits this description were cast as the heroine of a Romance novel, two things could happen. a) The reader might see potential for a very wide, attitude-shifting, life-changing character arc, or b) the reader would put the book down because who the heck wants to read about someone so boring and depressing?
I don’t know about you, but I’m going with B on this one. So today, we’re talking about heroines. But not the ones in our books. The ones in our lives.
To quote The Holiday (and probably numerous other sources) “Every woman should be the heroine of her own life.”
So today, we’re defining ourselves. What kind of heroine do you want to be? We’re taking matters into our own hands, defining our dreams, even creating our dream look.
I’ll start. First we pick three adjectives we want others to think of when they think of us. For me it’s independent, smart, funny. (I know. You’re shocked.) And for my style, I want an entire wardrobe from Bettie Page Clothing. Or rather Bettie designs combined with several pieces from Pin Up Girl Clothing thrown in too.
These clothes are not only straight out of the 40s (my favorite for fashion), they’re made for girls with curves. I could so rock this dress! [Click on the picture to see the details.]
And look at those shoes! WANT!! (I have to stop looking at that website. At least until I hit the lottery. And get a knee replacement.)
Now I have to decide my story. I kind of like the details being a secret, but only because I have no idea how to teach a stubborn ass, independent woman like me that she can’t do everything herself and could be happy with a man around. Since the ending would be a HEA, I’d learn that lesson. Somehow.
It’s possible, right? Maybe?
Your turn. Pick your three adjectives, describe your dream style (with a link if you want), and tell us how the story of your life would go. To be clear, saying “I’d be married to the man I’m with right now and enjoying life raising my little darlings into fine, upstanding adults who will give me loads of grandchildren” is totally legit.
So tell us. What kind of heroine do you want to be? And by all means, cast your hero while you’re at it!
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Three adjectives... Creative, witty and brave.
Yup, brave. I need to be more brave. I want to be more witty and be appreciated as witty and I can always use more productive creativity. (Okay, I cheated and added a fourth. I'm a pirate, I cheat. Live with it.)
My clothing line...I don't know designers...but I'd like whoever was designing for Stevie Nicks in the leather and lace Fleetwood Mac album covers... With a splash of some Bettie Page thrown in!
Who would play me? I've always said Sandra Bullock at her comedic best...or really...either of the ladies who played the crazy aunts in Practical Magic...
This is clearly not intended for me, but I refuse to be left out of a party! LOL
A simple application of reflection symmetry, swapping hero for heroine, and whisky for rum, gets me past the kraken.
My adjectives: brilliantly creative; stunningly handsome with full head of hair; Witty and resourceful with stories to enthral a lady all night.
OK I'm a pirate like Chance! *grin*
To be serious though, I really would like to enhance my artistic creative side and paint beautiful pictures or write best selling romance novels.
I've always had wonderful dreams! *smile*
A ship full of pirates is never expected to follow the rules. Or guidelines, as the case may be.
You're incredibly brave, Chanceroo! You've put yourself further out there than anyone on this ship. You've been to the brink and back, my friend. You are one brave pirate!
Q - It wouldn't be a party without you! If you applied your genius to creative pursuits the world would be an even more beautiful place. All we ask is that you bring your ventures aboard for us all to enjoy.
Though just bringing yourself aboard is always enough to class the joint up.
Kiddo is getting her braces on this morning so I might be AWOL for a little. There's a Starbucks by the ortho office so I'm hoping to be back on in an hour or less!
What a thought-provoking post.
If you'd asked me this ten years ago, when I was working a crappy job, dating a crappy guy, and renting a shithole, I might have had something more interesting to say.
Three words, huh? I'd like to be known as gracious, witty, and smart.
My dream style. Huh.... This is a little harder. Can I just have Kate Middleton's wardrobe? And can we throw in a little something funky? Maybe some vintage pieces from the 20s or the 70s, that sort of waify, flappery feel?
I'm currently a Gap wearing, oxford shirt/t-shirt, cardigan kind of girl. I wear Toms. I wear Uggs. Pretty much comfort rules my life and I'm happy with the way it looks, honestly, except for the last 10 lbs of baby weight.
My life story....
I like the way it's going. Staying home with the boys might not be the most mentally stimulating job (oh it's hard some days, and exhausting, and frustrating) but I feel fulfilled doing it. If I see my boys grow into happy adults, if I see them become productive additions to society, find a place in the community and make a contribution somehow, then I'll feel like I did what I was supposed to do.
As to my personal satisfaction, writing was the thing I felt I needed to do. I always wanted to and then I wasn't chasing that goal. Now that I am, I'm proud of myself. Even if I don't publish, I'm happy I'm chasing the dream.
So, right now I'm a content gal. There's things I want, don't get me wrong. But I'm happy anyway, where I am.
I will add, too, that my DH is probably the best partner I could have picked for myself. The fates smiled on me the day I met him. It's easy to be happy with what I have now when that "have" includes him.
Huh. Wordpress just ate my comment or something. WTH??
Made it to Starbucks. I feel like a real writer all set up here in the corner. LOL!
I figured you'd be the content pirate, Marn. We're all going to be jealous. (Except maybe Hal, who will probably give the same answer. LOL!)
Great choice on the clothes. I love that Kate isn't afraid to wear the same thing more than once. Can't join you on the 70s thing, but I'm on board with the 20s!
Oh and I love that Kate isn't afraid to rewear things too. It makes her seem so... normal.
I don't mean to be the annoying content pirate. I just feel lucky, that's all.
I love the 20s. What a glamorous time. You know what I want? This dress, from ATONEMENT. http://www.sundaybrunchdress.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/02/keiras-green-dress-in-atonement-side-300x400.jpg
Gorgeous. Of course, I'd need Keira Knightley's body, but I'm going to pretend. I can afford the dress either. It's all fantasy. But it's beautiful.
Never apologize for being content!
That is an awesome dress. I'd love to have one of those bodies that can wear anything and it always looks effortless and hangs beautifully. But then Keira's body wouldn't look nearly as good as mine in that dress above.
So I'll keep my girls and deal with it. LOL!
Great post, Terri. :)
So three adjectives I *want* people to think of (instead of the 3 they already DO think of -- LOL). Mmm. Probably fun, intriguing, inspiring.
I don't follow fashions enough to recognize a particular designer. I like to choose things based on my mood -- almost like a costume -- so one day it's flip flops and tank top and another day it's sparkly sequins and over-the-knee boots. I am a heroine who adores boots. LOL
I'm living a portion of my dream life, and pursuing the rest of it with a vengeance. But I think I'm gonna sip my coffee and think about the hero who should be a part of this life. THAT sounds like fun!
My three adjectives (I'd want to be described as): strong, sexy, brave. (Witty and intelligent make the top 5, but sexier ranks higher for me than intelligent. Think what you will. *LOL*)
This is the dress: http://www.pinupgirlclothing.com/vamp-dress-black.html I think I'd want it in red though. You know, a red dress. :) Like the poem.
And my hero would be stronger, sexier, and braver than I am. :) But not wittier than I am. *LOL*
My adjectives: brilliantly creative; stunningly handsome with full head of hair; Witty and resourceful with stories to enthral a lady all night.
This makes me think of a role reversal of 1000 Arabian Nights. I love it. *LOL*
But I think I’m gonna sip my coffee and think about the hero who should be a part of this life. THAT sounds like fun!
Indeed! *LOL*
That DRESS! (I haven't read the rest of the comments, just had to say that I find the dress from Atonement to be the most awesome dress ever invented.)
Awesome blog, Terri! I think for me, I'd pick: genuine, witty/funny, confident.
I tend to be a people-pleaser, so I get pushed around a lot. I'd like to stop getting pushed around. LOL! So I'd like to be more confident and stronger. Not meaner, just standing firm enough to withstand people *trying* to push me around and confident enough to say no.
As for my style, I like trendy, sexy clothes, with a 40's flair thrown in. I don't have a link (though I've having fun looking!). But I like a lot of dresses and such. And jeans, because I'm also lazy. The perfect style to me, is jeans with fun, sexy tops and shoes. And lots of costume-style jewelry. You know, the long chain or bead necklaces . . .
I think for me, it's taken a long time to learn to be content, or to find joy and contentment in the little, normal moments of life. There are definitely parts of my life that I am fully content with. And other parts, like the day job, that could stand some improvement. But the job gives me the ability to create the type of home and family I dream of, so that makes it worthwhile in a big way.
I'm back! Kiddo is in school and can no longer pass through metal detectors. LOL!
I like the "inspiring" part, Donna. That's an intriguing choice. =) Makes you sound very generous, which is also a good adjective to have. You must come back and let us know what you come up with for a hero. I'm dying to know!
We can stretch the top 3 to a top 5. Why not?! You'd take sexy over intelligent? Hmmm....I'd have to think about that. I suppose so long as I AM intelligent, I could take people thinking of I'm sexy before remembering my smarts. Maybe. Tough call!
You could so work that dress. Definitely in red. That dress is calling out to be red. But you must keep the leopard print shoes. LOL! I could even see you working that hair!
And you say what I want in a man is impossible. LOL!
Hal - For a second I thought you were excited about the dress in the blog. Then I read again and realize you mean Marn's choice. That is gorgeous. Much classier than my choice. LOL!
I'm all about jeans and sexy tops. I've longed to learn how to accessorize for a few years now, but I'm so understated I rarely think to wear jewelry beyond earrings and my watch. I did accumulate lots of long necklaces from attending National conferences, but I can't find them. No idea what I did with them when I moved. *sigh*
They have to be here somewhere!
Yeah, I got all excited about the dress, then realized there were several dresses we were discussing. I like the one in the post and the one Hellie linked to (hhhoooootttt!) as well!
And I'm all about being sexy before intelligent, too. As long as there's intelligence when you open your mouth, you can totally be sexy first :)
Deerhunter is stronger, braver, and sexier than I am. He's just not wittier than I am. *LOL* :)
I realized that my list of qualities are things I think of with Angelina Jolie. Of course, I'd love to be like her. *LOL*
EXACTLY. What Hal said.
Besides, as is well-documented, men always see better than they think. *LOL* So it's okay to have sexy before intelligent.
Angie schmangie. She couldn't run a pirate crew as well as you!
Now I want to make mine a top 5 and add sexy. And maybe fearless. I'd love to be fearless.
ohh fearless. I'd love to be fearless!
Fun blog, Ter! I think my three adjectives would be witty, intelligent, and authentic. If you're going to stretch it to 5, I would throw in kind and funny.
As for the clothes, I'm struggling with that one. If it would be something I could wear that would look great and FEEL great I would go with the 20's and 30's. Unfortunately all those shoes everyone drools over would kill my feet. So, I'm afraid my style is jeans, NewBalance and a cute top. Summer is better cause I get to wear cool looking capris and cuter tops.
Like Marnee, I'm kind of living the dream, as it were. I didn't really know what I wanted when I was a teen, but I knew I wanted to be in a healthy, loving relationship with happy well-adjusted kids. Do I sound like a recovering child from a dysfunctional family, or what? (I just read that sentence and thought I sounded like a therapist LOL!!)
At this moment in time I am very happy being a stay at home mom to my 2 teens (taking into consideration the pain in the ass 2 teens can be), and being married to the DH. I like the words Marnee chose - "the best partner I could have picked for myself."
I'll check back later (my daughter is pulling me away to be her chauffeur). I'm surprised kiddo is in school today, Ter. Columbus Day!
Ah, Qster, yer already all that! Well, I can't speak fer the hair, but the rest? Course!
Marn! What a loverlee dress...and gracious...nice adjective! Nice sexy black number, Cap'n! I'm just more the gypsy with clothes... Just give me good support wear...
Interesting that Hels and I both want to be brave. I don't know, I can be pretty brave about some things and then a total wallflower on others. I swear, I'm terrified at the thought of attending Nationals without ya, Terrio!
Soooo...did anyone else remember who Stevie Nicks is?
I love genuine, too! I'd probably pick authentic, but it's the same thing!
Of course we know who Stevie Nicks is. We're not THAT young. LOL!
Authentic. I like that. And you'll be fine at Nationals. We spend more time apart than we do together anyway. LOL! You'll do great!
I thought they were out today too, Irish. I'm off work and figured she could get the braces on then come home and sleep. But nope!
I never dreamed about being a mom, but figured out pretty quick I love it. Came natural from the pregnancy on. I don't want anymore, but I love the one I've got. (Even though I'm invested the price of a good used car in her mouth.)
It's all fantasy, Irish. The shoes won't hurt a bit. And those 40-style shoes I picked up for M&M worked great. Little shorter, thicker heal meant no instant foot pain. I did get a little blister but that's because I walked too far for lunch. A little band-aid and I'll be good to go the next time.
Ooooo. I like fearless! I want to actually be fearless. I have a hunch that sometimes those that we picture as fearless do have a little fear but push through it. I'm tired of pushing through! I don't want the fear at all! LOL
I hear you on the braces! Between the two of mine it's more like a brand spanking new car. And then you get the added benefit of listening to them complain about it all the time. LOL
Chance - I love the way Stevie Nicks dresses day to day. She has a really quirky fashion sense. It shouts out that she's her own person.
If we're picking dream clothes that will look fab on us, I say the shoes won't hurt either...
True, we do spend most day time apart, it's the night time stuff, where I fade into obscurity at all social functions and go hide in my hotel room...
Yeah, glad to hear I wasn't referencing myself too far out of common knowledge! I love the frills that look casual...
You wake up every day to face two hormonal teens. You, my dear Irish, are the epitome of fearless. LOL!
Kiddo was excited and still is, but she's having some trouble talking with the bracket on the roof of her mouth. We have to turn this little key thing four times a day for a week and then hopefully it'll be good from there. The braces on the bottom are a pretty blue.
I have a feeling we'll go through a lot of pain pills over the next couple years.
You've managed to be the life of the party at RT for how many years now? You don't need me!
I can't believe I'm reading this!
Somehow I sense a trap for some dumb male to fall into.
Ah well, here goes LOL
My three adjectives: strong, sexy, brave.
sexier ranks higher for me than intelligent. Think what you will. *LOL*
Helli, unless I misunderstand, I think you mean that the appearance of sexy ranks above the appearance of intelligence. You want your mind hidden as a secret weapon to be revealed later at a time of your choosing.
Like Hal said: And I’m all about being sexy before intelligent, too. As long as there’s intelligence when you open your mouth, you can totally be sexy first :)
LOL I'm just going to say that if you wear those dresses then any red bloodied guy is going to (appear) helpless! :)
I like Fearless better than Brave. Brave rather means doing something even if you don't want to do it--you just do it. But Fearless...fearless is doing something because you want to without fear of the consequences...or without fear that the consequences won't be beyond what you can handle.
Okay, I'm subbing Fearless for Brave. *LOL*
Now I have Taylor Swift in my head.
I don't know, fearless sorta gives the impression that you aren't smart enough to be scared when you should be... ;-) I imagine a lot of fearless cavemen didn't evolve far...
*poke!
I'm sticking with brave!
You want your mind hidden as a secret weapon to be revealed later at a time of your choosing.
Love it, Q!
I have some secret weapons, but I'm not sure I could hide them in that dress very well. LOL!
Nope, I'm with Hellie. Fearless is knowing whatever the consequences may be, you can handle them. I'm sticking with fearless.
Q has the perfect interpretation once again!
Okay...got to pass this on... http://katieharperwrites.blogspot.com/2011/10/my-favorite-national-hero.html
An ode to a pirate/privateer that is brilliant, typical Katie Harper style...
Ooo. I love the Betty Page style! So sexy and flirty. I'm, however, too scrawny to pull off the look. I gravitate toward the Flapper style, since it works with my lack of curves. I'm not by nature, glamorous, so my style, when I can be bothered to have one, is somewhere between skater girl and goth.
Heroine = brave and organized. I'm neither, to my chagrin.
I'm gonna get all schmaltzy and say that I already have my hero. I married him.
I was just wondering what a guy would pick, Q. And more importantly if they would rank smart/intelligent as important as we all seem to.
I can almost guarantee that if I asked the DH the 3 adjectives question, his #1 would be fun and smart or intelligent would not make the cut. LOL In fact, I'm so curious about it I think I'm going to e-mail him.
That blog is hysterical!!! He faxed a picture of his ass. LMAO!!
Irish - Report back!! And if his first adjective is "easy" you have our permission to smack him.
Pat - We must be complete opposites. I have more curves than any woman needs. *sigh* I'm moderately organized. (Hides the stack of papers on the table.) That's my story and I'm sticking to it.
Grins...us married ladies did seem to already have our hero... Mine proved himself by saving my life in 2007... and I'm with Irish, wonder what adjectives he'd pick?
I don't know about Donna, but as one of the two single ladies on this boat, I'm starting to feel very insecure. *grumble grumble grumble*
Helli, unless I misunderstand, I think you mean that the appearance of sexy ranks above the appearance of intelligence. You want your mind hidden as a secret weapon to be revealed later at a time of your choosing.
This is possibly true, Q. I like to keep my secret weapons, well, secret. *LOL* BUT I have to speak for brainy plain girls (of which I'm one of many), we almost all have that secret desire that a man finds us beautiful for a whole minute before they realize we're smart. (I think the pretty girls have the opposite secret desire.)
Just once I'd like to be objectified! *LOL*
I am not married; I just really like my Deerhunter and think he can be heroic.
Then that takes you out of the "single girl" category. Face it. You're one of them.
8)
It's good to have a goal. LOL!
Entrusted? Does he mean trustworthy?
I love the Harper goal to be so hated in life that her enemies would celebrate the date of her death like they did Sir Francis Drake. *LOL* OMG! *LOL*
Do I know my man, or what!!!!
1. Fun
2. Clever
3. Entrusted
Probably! That's huge with him. I did a double take when I saw that too. He's always had a unique way with the English language at times.
I was about to ask the same question! LOL!
Okay, I guess I do too. That last sentence should have read "He's always had a unique way with the English language *period*"
Irish:I was just wondering what a guy would pick, Q
LOL For my heroine it would be fun, intelligence, grace, kind, sexy.
The order would change according to my mood and the circumstances. *smile*
Helli, I don't include beauty or pretty in the short list and I don't think any girl is truly plain. There are always features to admire and fall in love with, as I'm sure Dearhunter will explain.
When wearing those dresses though, all bets are off!
We get it, Irish. It is a Monday after all.
We need more men like Q. We have the cloning machine on board yet?
I asked the hubs, but worded it as "what's your top three characteristics in an ideal wife/date?"
He said, "there's a BIG difference in an ideal wife and an ideal date. For a date, all that's necessary is 1. hot; 2. cool" (yeah, he's a guy, what can I say?)
He hasn't answered for the wife. I think he's afraid it's a trap. hahahahahaha
This explains a lot about my dating life. Or lack thereof.
he was a lacrosse player, so don't take his definition for the average man. He dated some idiots in college.
He hasn’t answered for the wife. I think he’s afraid it’s a trap.
ROTFL
In that case, originally before the Wife bit, he thought you were HOT and COOL. *LOL*
Maybe 'wife' is something similar: like HOT and COOL and CAN ADMINISTER MEDICAL ASSISTANCE WHEN I GET NICKS, BRUISES, OR AM HAVING A HEART ATTACK.
haha. isn't that just like a man? Somebody who I can have sex with, and will take care of me if I get sick.
Geez.
None of us should be held accountable for who we dated in college. (But, uhm, didn't you guys meet at college?)
I'm dying to know his choices for wife. And I love that you made this into a trick question. Even if unintentionally. Clear sign the man has been married long enough to know NOT to answer.
uhrm, we met in grad school. that's no better, is it? haha
He finally fessed up for wife:
1. hot
2. cool or funny
3. non-naggy
Then he said, "dude, non-naggy should be #1, or at least #1b"
I have no idea how "hot' and "non-naggy" relate here, but I find it hilarious (and a little worrisome, as how post-baby, I've definitely become more of a nagger)
Ha! Nope, sticking with brave. I think bravery includes a total awareness of what you're doing without the added element of recklessness.
I'm older, I like to avoid the recklessness stuff.
So, if a hero attribute includes knowing CPR, I'm good with mine!
Smarts as a secret weapon...snicker!
Yeah, Hels, Katie is a total kick!
So you need to be hot to look at, cool to talk to, and not whine about a bunch of shit. I would totally flip that around and apply it to a husband. Makes sense to me.
Dude. Fearless does not mean reckless. I don't want to be bungee jumping fearless. But maybe roller-coaster fearless.
I agree with Bo'sun's interpretation of Hal's hubby's specification. Those are good attributes. *LOL* He's safe; he picked good ones.
THOUGH we'd nag less if they'd just do what they're supposed to. How long does the trash have to stink in the kitchen before you take it out? I could take it out, but then you'd really not be contributing to the chore load. *LOL*Pick something and do it before you're "nagged".
fear·less
[feer-lis] Show IPA
adjective
without fear; bold or brave; intrepid.
FEARLESS=BRAVE. Same difference. Just depends which one you like the sound of more. I'm still for FEARLESS. It sounds more bold.
Kay, sounds good to me. I'm just the more cautious type, perhaps... I do like intrepid...nice and old fashion-ee.
I get what you were saying because fearless is literally "without fear" and only idiots are without fear. *LOL* I don't mean I'm suddenly going to take up snake-wrestling or anything--but brave to me feels more like a person facing death somberly, but fearless feels more I have a bit of a smile on my face because, damnit, I might just live. Not everything I face has to be a matter of life or death.
Fearless is a bit more cheeky. Doesn't mean I have a death wish--just means I don't sweat the small stuff.
At least that's how I feel about the word.
THOUGH we’d nag less if they’d just do what they’re supposed to.
AMEN!!
It puts me in mind of a convo I wrote for the Caribbean Spell series, when the lead defends his reputation as not being about luck, but about careful planning and knowing what he was doing... I may see fearless and brave with the same eye.
I like being lucky, but I'd rather be clever.
One you can depend on, the other is tricksy...
When I think of the Nationals...Terri is fearless in social situations... I fight my own cowardice and work on being brave. Probably makes me more hesitant...but that's where the bravado comes into it! ;-)
And I agree that husbands should totally be attractive to us, interesting to talk to, and not whine.
You're right, he did pick safe ones :)
Hal - I don't nag...I remind!
Okay, looks like I asked him the wrong question. I asked him what adjectives he would want for himself, not me. Now, I gotta go ask him what adjectives he'd want in a wife. I won't even venture into the date arena. That would definitely be fun, easy, cheap!
I'll admit right now I was a nagger. But as Hellie says, I wouldn't have had to nag if he'd done one damn thing. The great part was that I had the platform to call him out on shit like not taking out the garbage on the radio. Which I did. Frequently.
I'm sure no one's shocked that I'm divorced. LOL!
And Bo'sun just happens to know more people at Nationals than you do. If I attended an RT convention, I'd be so far out of my element, you'd never get me out of the room.
fun, easy, and cheap - ha! I love it!
I didn't think to ask what qualities *he* would want to be. That would have been more revealing, I think!
The great part was that I had the platform to call him out on shit like not taking out the garbage on the radio. Which I did. Frequently.
YES!!!! I would totally do that.
So maybe we need to add to our list for men: fully committed to being an equal partner. Cause otherwise, 100% of the nagging is justified
This is the point where Marn comes back and talks about all the stuff her DH does around the house. And the rest of us flail about in irritation. LOL!
I'm going to try for a nap. I had to leave the house this morning at the time I'd usually be crawling out of bed. That's just wrong!
I will say, I once watched Marn's husband stand up from the dinner table and immediately start loading the dishwasher. It was all I could do not to elbow the hubs and say, "SEE!" lol.
I have to admit, mine is on a roll lately. Actually was under the house replacing insulation yesterday. If he keeps this up I won't be lifting my feet from the floor all winter, trying to avoid the icy air pooling at the carpet...
Okay, you might find RT intimidating... I was thinking this morning of who I can attach myself to at the social events in Anaheim if you don't make it. Let's see...Stephanie and Mary... J and uh...maybe Celeste and Kim if they make it...
Sigh.
I may start a fundraiser to get you to Anaheim!
You used your radio persona to call him out? I LOVE it!
Mo - I'm the same way. I once followed Terri around at a book signing, in awe of all the people she could wander up to and talk to. I just hung back and watched :)
Well, I'm going to have to wait for my answer - I'm having a hard time getting his attention. He is really busy at the moment (watching taped episodes of "Penguins of Madagascar" with the son!)
*I really hate when everyone is home when they're not supposed to be* :( Screws up my whole routine!
I have to give big kuddos to Marn's hubby! My DH is totally awesome with being supportive, talkative, sensitive, affectionate, great father, etc. etc., but I have a hell of a time getting him to pick up after himself. I blame his mother! She did EVERYTHING for him. The funny thing is that when I first started going out with him he lived on his own (or with his brother and sister) and he did all the housework and such. So maybe it's my fault! :(
And Mr. Irish just fell out of the "men we'd like to clone" group.
Though I'm not sure it's your fault either. My ex was spoiled and never had to lift a finger, but when we moved in together, I made it clear we both would do the work. He did dishes (no dishwasher *shivers*), laundry, and cooked. By eight years later, he did nothing except cook his own food I refused to cook (squirrel!)
That was a 2hr nap I needed. Whew!
And I totally didn't finish my thought there. NOT to compare you're wonderful DH to my ex, but I think for men like that, they're natural state is to do nothing. So it just happens. You don't even notice until it's too late.
But if they can be trained once, by golly they can be trained again!
I can remember having that discussion with my Mom. She'd ask why I wasn't fixing Stephen's work lunch (like she did my dad's) and I said he was perfectly capable of fixing his own lunch... Then my dad retired and Mom complained about having to stop what she was doing to fix him lunch...
Well, if you start off training them to do it themselves, then you don't face these things when they retire.
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